Once you’ve had your first fleeting “taste” of something, and have not yet had it again — whether it’s a unique aspect of the relationship with your ex, your first (and only) sale so far in your business, a Zoltar machine that makes you younger, etc. — it can be easy in moments of doubt or insecurity to think you might never have it again; that your taste was just an isolated incident. And if the taste was amazing, it can even be frustrating because other things that used to taste fine are now bland and shitty by comparison.
But here’s the deal: we live in a vast and abundant world. If you’ve tasted something before, that’s proof that it exists, and if you stop and really think about it for a moment, that can feel so incredibly encouraging! Gone is the doubt about whether or not it exists — you’ve tasted it. You know it exists. You simply have to remember that everything in this universe comes from a greater pool of similar things. No matter how mind-blowingly awesome the taste was, it’s not unique. It just feels that way because it was the first taste and you’re still establishing context to understand just how common or uncommon that thing is.
Analogy: imagine you’re walking down a dirt road and a dandelion seed floats into your hand. And because you’ve never seen one before, and have a weird affinity for windswept seeds, you are immediately smitten with it. Ecstatic, you dash home to store it in your wall safe. But when you get home, you realize that you somehow lost it in your frantic excited running. You double check your pockets, and it’s nowhere to be found. You find yourself overwhelmed with sorrow. “It was so beautiful and amazing and I’ve never experienced anything like it, and now I never will again,” you cry out. But if only you’d kept walking, you would have found a huge field of dandelions just around the bend.
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